I truly am amazed at the lack of response men give when it comes to manning up and being present when needed. Further more... It is just down right annoying when you have to sit and listen to one, and when I say "one" I mean a "man" talk about how lame their friends are to women yet they are JUST LIKE their brainless buddies who think "HANGING OUT" is considered dating and get freaked when a girl calls them out on it! Heaven for bid that a girl could possible be right or even worse... On to your stupid attempt to appear as a "good guy". Ha! The gig is up Mr., time to really MAN up. News flash fellows... Just because a girl is over the whole "hanging out" or "watching movies" doesn't make her crazy, makes her wise! She finally has woken up to realize she deserves better.
Now... Not to sound like some irate woman who is man bashing & to be fair here... Ladies... We have some room for improvement as well. When a guy opens your door, it's not because he doesn't think you can't do it but because he is trying to show you some respect by doing the respectful thing... Opening your door! So, the next time some poor soul of man chooses to man up and open your door be gracious, grateful and thank him for doing so. Also... Ladies, say what you mean and do what you say. It doesn't make things easy when you are constantly playing guessing games with the dude. If you like a guy, like the guy... Why can't he know that? Not saying you have to throw yourself at him but you don't have to always play over the top hard to get either. Guys may like a chase but the doesn't mean they want to spend the next 6months trying to catch you. And girls... Dumb is out! Be the smart, beautiful women I know you all to be. Don't down play yourself and act dumb because honestly... That just means you are DUMB!
Let's think about this....
Sometimes the best relationships are based off friendships.... How many have heard this time & time again? And how many actually believe that? For those of you who have heard this and agree you are one step a head of the game where the rest of you who rolled your eyes at such an idea... I'm afraid you still have lots to learn. Any long lasting and great relationship between two people only work because the two are friends. How do you expect to love and be with someone if you aren't friends? There really is no answer for that question other than you can't. A key functional component to any working relationship is friendship.
Aside from friendship you MUST have COMMUNICATION!!!!!!!!!!!! Probably the most valuable part of a relationship is being able to look at someone and express yourself fully, openly and honestly to each other. Being able to talk about the good... AMAZING but being able to talk about the bad, work through it and over coming it... WORTH IT. To open yourself up to another individual is probably one of the HARDEST things any of us can do, but 9 times out of 10 it's the most rewarding and beautiful thing we'll ever do. To connect with someone on a deeper level than what is just on the surface is not only another key functional component but it's #1 to any working relationship.
Relationships aren't just about the work that is put in them but they are also about the fun you should be having along the way. If you aren't having fun with who you are with than I think it's time to get REAL with yourself and ask... "Am I with the right person? Do they really make me happy?" If you can't sit down and ask yourself real questions such as those than we have another problem... You should be looking at yourself and asking.. "Am I happy with me?" I pose this question and insight due to the very fact that I have watched to many of my friends, female & male go into a relationship under the silly mentality that this relationship is going to make them "HAPPY". How do you expect to be happy and have fun if you aren't happy to begin with?
Dating is messy... And sometimes... Overwhelming. But, when you come to find that one person who in the most insane way understands you, sees you for you and loves you with out expectations it's the greatest thing we can do to past the time. We have to remember something... Love is simple, it's not messy and it's not complicated... If we can remember that and keep in mind that there is joy in the bad chances are we'll find just what we are looking for.
I'm far from a dating professional or expert but I have learned a few lessons in my life that helped me to realize that there could be more things that I should be doing when dating and a few things I should be doing less of. Hopefully... We all can stand and say that we have learned those lessons from our journeys of dating but if you are one who seems to lack basic comprehending skills... I don't just feel bad for you but I feel bad for the poor souls you attempt to date...
Signing out..
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