Let me pose a question... Is it easier to hash it out or easier to just let it go? Now that, that is rolling around in your head add this next question in the mix... Letting something go, does that depend on what it is and if so why? I ask these questions cause these are the very things rolling around in this lovely little mind of my, this mind that sometimes I wish that I had an off button to. Why are these questions swimming in my world of thoughts? For many reasons and for a lot of reason that don't really make sense to me.
Let's start with the reason that make sense to me, shall we?
1) Drama: The point of when crap hits the fan and all hell breaks loose, the point when you have no choice but to deal with issue at hand.
2) Adulthood: Part of being an adult is knowing when to walk away and when to say something, sometimes half the battle is being strong enough to say enough is enough.
3) The point: When someone wrongs you there comes this moment where all you think about is making a point, making a point to prove them wrong and make yourself "feel better" but what does that serve?
Now there are more reasons but overall these are my top 3, these reasons of why I have such thoughts in my head & why I'm learning there is great joy in being able to "just walk away", to walk away from the things that really make no point to continue to deal with.
Now my reasons that make no sense...
1) Emotional: I'm a girl... Let's just be honest here... We girls tend to over look things and make things way more personal then they need to be.
2) Stubborn: I'm as stubborn as they come, I want to control things and because so I can't seem to let things go when I should.
There you have it... I think that pretty much sums up my non-making sense thoughts... They both pretty much speak for themselves. Translation... I'm a girl, enough said.
Okay, why am I going on and on in circles about this... Let me tie this all together for you. Short story, something happen with a friend, something in the sense where I vented about things to someone else rather than talking to my friend directly like an adult and that someone else told my friend who than in turn is now upset with me. When my friend confronted me about what was said I owned up, admitted that I did in fact do something wrong and apologized for doing so. She isn't speaking to me, which I can respect, I wasn't expecting her to due to the fact that I handled myself poorly. Anyways... I as much as I feel bad about what happen I walked away from the situation knowing that in the end I did do the right thing. It took me a minute to get there but in the end I did.
I could have gotten to that point so much faster if I had just gotten over myself and pride, and talked to my friend. I should have confronted her with my issues directly rather than "venting" and than thinking that I could just let it go after that. So My lesson to share for the evening is that life really is too short to not express your feelings, it doesn't me that you have make it a fight about everything but you can find healthier ways resolve ones frustrations and finding the joy in just letting go.
I'm am not a perfect person and I don't ever plan to be one, but I do plan on to strive to be better every day and by doing so I am reminded that I am a good person. I am a person who is still able to learn new tricks so to speak and that those who really love me will always be a part of my life.
Let's start with the reason that make sense to me, shall we?
1) Drama: The point of when crap hits the fan and all hell breaks loose, the point when you have no choice but to deal with issue at hand.
2) Adulthood: Part of being an adult is knowing when to walk away and when to say something, sometimes half the battle is being strong enough to say enough is enough.
3) The point: When someone wrongs you there comes this moment where all you think about is making a point, making a point to prove them wrong and make yourself "feel better" but what does that serve?
Now there are more reasons but overall these are my top 3, these reasons of why I have such thoughts in my head & why I'm learning there is great joy in being able to "just walk away", to walk away from the things that really make no point to continue to deal with.
Now my reasons that make no sense...
1) Emotional: I'm a girl... Let's just be honest here... We girls tend to over look things and make things way more personal then they need to be.
2) Stubborn: I'm as stubborn as they come, I want to control things and because so I can't seem to let things go when I should.
There you have it... I think that pretty much sums up my non-making sense thoughts... They both pretty much speak for themselves. Translation... I'm a girl, enough said.
Okay, why am I going on and on in circles about this... Let me tie this all together for you. Short story, something happen with a friend, something in the sense where I vented about things to someone else rather than talking to my friend directly like an adult and that someone else told my friend who than in turn is now upset with me. When my friend confronted me about what was said I owned up, admitted that I did in fact do something wrong and apologized for doing so. She isn't speaking to me, which I can respect, I wasn't expecting her to due to the fact that I handled myself poorly. Anyways... I as much as I feel bad about what happen I walked away from the situation knowing that in the end I did do the right thing. It took me a minute to get there but in the end I did.
I could have gotten to that point so much faster if I had just gotten over myself and pride, and talked to my friend. I should have confronted her with my issues directly rather than "venting" and than thinking that I could just let it go after that. So My lesson to share for the evening is that life really is too short to not express your feelings, it doesn't me that you have make it a fight about everything but you can find healthier ways resolve ones frustrations and finding the joy in just letting go.
I'm am not a perfect person and I don't ever plan to be one, but I do plan on to strive to be better every day and by doing so I am reminded that I am a good person. I am a person who is still able to learn new tricks so to speak and that those who really love me will always be a part of my life.
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